The Philippine Catholic Church is not yet done with its fight for the RH Bill, now here comes the Divorce Bill on their plate.
The Philippines and the Vatican are now the only places in the world where divorce is still prohibited. Most of the Filipinos are Roman Catholics, and abide the preaches of the Church. Indeed, the Catholic Church is still powerful here in our country.
Divorce nowadays is a trending topic almost everywhere, debates of pro and anti are still outrageous. Party-list representative Liza Masa of Gabriela filed a Divorce Bill in 2005. According to Rep. Masa, the Annulment that we have right now is “Anti-poor”, as it requires huge amount of money and plenty of time and effort. Therefore, most of the average Filipinos could not afford this expensive procedure and find it non-responsive to the needs of those who suffered from marital abuse.
I thank debates and talks about Divorce, my mind is enlightened by their explanations. According to the latest survey, 5 out of 10 Pinoys are Pro Divorce, while 1 out of 5 Anti is still undecided. For a time, I was confused what side of the coin I’m in. For two years, I am happily married to the man I shared seven years of ups and downs, I am a Roman Catholic since birth, so there are no special reasons to join the Pro side of the coin, but as I contemplate, I realized that this bill will help those women and men that are suffering from marital abuse. They deserve to be happy, to get rid of the abusive partners.
We all know that not all marriages succeeded, there are diverse reasons why some are failed, there are physical abuse, sexual infidelity, irreconcilable differences and conflicting personalities, gross irresponsibility, loss of affection, among others.
In the end, whether they pass it or not, a husband and wife should really fight for their marriage to last. There are some marriage counselors that can give the best advice to maintain a happy relationship.
It’s annoying to hear this right? “Till DIVORCE do us part.”
yzymygz
“Till DIVORCE do us part.” Nice quote, author!
The Church sees the divorce bill on a general perspective. although laws can be implemented without Implementing rules and regulations, still, we should always be objective.
You might know my personal background coming from a “Catolico Cerrado” Family. but it doesn’t affect my opinion. Women and children who suffer from abuse within their families remain a victim and will forever be living in hell while still here on earth. Do we want them to be forever miserable? No. We want them to be free from abuse and be free when “True Happiness” come across their paths.
I, too, was a victim of domestic abuse – the mere reason why I left my boyfriend of six years. And come to think of it, if I would have married that guy, I might be one of those women who are battered. Though there is legal separation and annulment in our country, victims of VAW (Violence against Women) particularly the wives, will still be tied to the know that will keep her forever – no room for freedom, no room for happiness, no room for moving on.
I AM PROUD TO BE ONE OF THOSE 5 OUT OF 10 WHO ARE PRO DIVORCE!
admin
hello kaye, apir!
Lisa
You’re lucky to have a happy marriage! Oh, I haven’t spill the beans of my life, yet (in my blog) but I can’t stop myself from commenting.
Yes, I leave my husband. It happened on the 2nd month of 2006. I have reasons and that reason was posted here. It was also “anti-poor” because of the expenses.
It was only my dying mother who supported me emotionally. Financially? None. No one dared. Why? They pity my ex more than me. Also, they are ashamed for what I’ve done. Funny! He was a retired soldier. He got young girlfriends ages 14 & above. Some, he only meet in the bus and exchange cellphone numbers. Others, he gave cellphones. Oh, we have no child for 15 years.
After leaving him, I’ve worked in Manila but stopped because of my mother’s health. Again, returned to Manila, after she was laid to rest, hoping to work again.
Now, I am living with another guy and we had a son. A friend told me not to think of filing annulment. My ex was sick, very sick. Very bad, isn’t it? Can’t file any legal papers against him but it’s like waiting for his death. Too bad!
admin
Oh no, that’s too bad. See, that is why I am PRO Divorce, kase maraming mas kelangan makaalis sa marital abuse.
Rae
I’m catholic too, but I’m pro-divorce. I hope the option is available to those who really need it. Tulad nung mga examples na binigay mo in your post.
Also, I hope they make the ground strict. Para hindi abusuhin.
I also want it to be available to those sects/ religions who are ok with divorce. Hindi porket Catholic country tayo e we should force our beliefs on others.
Halimbawa, kung predominantly muslim tayo. Gusto ba nating ipagbawal ang pork para sa lahat? Medyo over simplistic ang example, but that’s my view on it.
At the end of the day… If you believe na hindi ok maghiwalay, edi wag ka makipaghiwalay.
admin
Thanks Rae for your comment. I strongly agree na “Hindi porket Catholic country tayo e we should force our beliefs on others.”